耐烦了，问道：“丹尼尔到底说什么了？”
过了一会儿，小女孩儿才回答说：“他说他刚理了个新发型。”
From the moment our children are born； we as parents want to give them our best。 Shower them with love； wrap them in security； feed and fort them； respond to all their needs。
For how long should we be doing this？ Is there ever a case for not heeding their cries？ Being in a position to alleviate their distress； or； quite simply； to make them happy； why on earth shouldn’t we？ If nothing else； a prompt response eliminates a lot of friction。
Never mind if the children are deprived of a chance to explore their hidden resources through longing； yearning； dreaming of things they cannot have。 Of the supreme satisfaction of finally obtaining something long coveted。
But imagine being the child of parents who have allowed this pattern to continue： Entering the adult world only to find that it does not cater to your every need but is full of individuals likewise deluded into thinking they e first…
Imagine seeing your relationships fail because all they are based on is want。 Because you have never been taught the art of renouncing your own demands for the sake of another…
Insistence on relief the minute a need arises is as bad as any addiction。 Training children to survive unaided – physically； emotionally； socially – is a duty all parents owe their offspring。 And the earlier it starts the better。
Would you be one of those who go through life apologizing to your parents for being what you are or； rather； for not being what they had hoped for？
If so； you are the victim of an artful； not unmon； form of parental manipulation。 Nothing is easier for a mother； or father or； in extreme cases； both； than instilling a sense that the offspring does not measure up to expectation。